I’ve just found out that I am officially a young mum. I’ve always known that most of my mummy friends are older than me, but I didn’t realise it was a national trend. According to recent statistics, the average age to have a child is now 30.3 years old.
I have to admit, it’s tough being different, but being a young mum is brilliant and there are lots of benefits for your kids too!
I Love Being A Young Mum
I might be bucking the trend and I totally get why people wait until they’re older (getting on the property ladder, time to focus on education and careers, cost of childcare, etc), but I LOVE being a young mum, and here’s why:
- When my kid shouts, “The floor is lava!” on the way home from school, I can jump onto the nearest (low!) wall without a moment’s hesitation
- My metabolism still allows me to eat cake when the kids do
- I can demonstrate how to do a handstand or a cartwheel
- I can recover from sleepless nights relatively quickly (although those 3am wake up calls are still tough going!)
- I’m used to living on a tight budget
- I can sit on the floor for hours playing with the building bricks
- I’m still an expert on kids films and TV
- I never got chance to clear out my stuffed toy collection so they’re now serving the next generation
- Same again for my Disney film collection!
- Tearing round the playground playing ‘Off-Ground Tig’ is totally do-able
- My kids’ grandparents are only in their 50s so they’ve got lots of energy to play too
- I’ve got time to work out what my loves and skills are before I launch into my serious career
- I still love kids food (Chocolate Spread, Candyfloss, IcePops, KFC, Fizzy Pop)
- I don’t mind sitting cramped in the back seat for a long car journey to entertain the kids
- I can skip home from school
- I had MSN as a teenager so I’ve experienced the perks and pitfalls of being a kid with a social media account
- I can get up out of the kids little chairs without groaning
- I pretend to hate crawling around the Soft Play Centre after my kid, but actually I think it’s quite fun (especially the bumpy slides!)
- Both my pregnancies were relatively straightforward
- Pizza Hut is still an acceptable date night venue (Nandos for special occasions!)
- My house is still a work in progress so if the kids make a mess, it’s no biggy
- I am an expert multitasker – we were the generation that grew up watching TV whilst simultaneously googling the actors in said TV programme, and chatting online about what’s going on!
- Once my kids are in school, I should (theoretically) have 30-40 years of continuous working life to focus on my career
- When I’m late for school pick-up, I can still sprint up the big hill
- Bouncing on the trampoline is as much my idea of fun as it is the kids’
- I still love going on the rides at the fair (especially the Dodgems!)
- I don’t feel like I have to have all the answers (parenting or otherwise) – life is still about learning
- I am a whizz at scouring the internet for deals and discounts on kids clothes and toys
- I’ve got the energy to bounce around and join in the kids’ chaotic, playful, busy lives
- It’s not so long since I was in school so I can (sort of) remember how to do algebra and what the letters on the Periodical Table stand for
Thank You To The *whispers* Older Mums
Yes I love being a young mum, and it’s certainly not the giant mistake that some people paint it to be.
But I’m also glad that everyone is different, and makes different choices. I am so very grateful to my older friends who advise me, and nurture me, and are patient with me when my immaturity shows. I appreciate the way that you treat me as an equal, even though I have so much less experience than you. I feel blessed to have you as role models and to be able to discuss all things mummy with you. I am touched when you offer to take me and my kids out for the day because you know that we are not as well off as you are.
In fact, Mummies of all ages – we’re pretty brilliant, aren’t we?!