To the poor woman out there who just googled, “full time mum need a break ”,
When I saw what you had typed, my heart went out to you. I know exactly how you feel and the weariness and desperation that drives you to look for answers on the internet.
This post is written especially for you and I hope you find it a comfort and a help.
I am a full time mummy
I am a full time mummy too. We both know it’s a wonderful job, but it’s also ruthlessly relentless.
Every day, no matter what, you have to show up. And not just for the 9 to 5, or even the 8 to 6. You are working from the moment your feet touch the ground, to the moment your head touches the pillow.
And then the night shift starts…!
Being a full time mum is the most full time job you can possibly have. You never “clock off”.
Your weekends, when everyone else is getting a couple of days off and a change of scenery, are exactly the same as your week days. Your evenings are only allowed to happen once your mini master decides to fall asleep, and even then, you are restricted to an evening of whispering in the living room with the subtitles on the TV.
Yes mummy – you absolutely need a break!
You need a break
You need a break so much, your eyes are stinging and your back aches. You spend 85% of your life sat on the floor and the other 15% walking around with a small child slung on your hip.
You need a break because you do the same thing day in, day out. You need a break because you somehow muster the energy to make Peppa Pig Visits The Fair just as exciting on fifth reading as it was the first time you read it, 15 minutes ago!
You need a break because you are permanently on high alert.
Your little one doesn’t understand that the cup of coffee is boiling hot or that jumping down the stairs could result in a broken neck. Even after the tenth time of saying it, she will forget that licking the floor could make her poorly and that throwing a ball around could smash the lamp.
You cannot allow yourself to be distracted for a moment – that’s all the time it takes for a child to drink something poisonous from the cleaning cupboard or run across the road in front of a car.
Living life at that level of intensity, with no off switch, is utterly exhausting.
Yes mama – you need a break.
11 ways to take a break when you’re a full time mum
But I get it – we all know that we need a break… there just isn’t time for one. There is always one more thing on the to-do list.
Maybe, like me, you don’t have any family nearby to help out or you don’t have a partner to share the load. Maybe you’ve got several children to keep up with and a family pet. Perhaps you’ve got older kids who need transporting to after school clubs or need help with homework.
Maybe your life feels like a total whirlwind.
Let me tell you this – you still need a break!
In fact you need a break more. Constantly giving and giving and giving eventually morphs from selfless love to self abuse and you just can’t let that happen.
So here are 11 ways to take a break, even if you’re a full time mum. They may not be perfect solutions but it’s a start.
- Have a shower – put some toys on the bathroom floor so you can keep an eye on your little one at the same time
- Sneak a biscuit – we’ve all done it! Stick your head in a kitchen cupboard and stuff a biscuit in your mouth before any of the kids know what’s happening
- Scroll your social media – you are not a bad mum for scrolling – social media connects you to the outside world as well as to the person you are (or were) without the mum label
- Do some colouring in – it’s surprisingly relaxing and your little one will enjoy sharing the fun with you
- Put your favourite music on – rock out to your favourite band and watch your kid create some crazy dance moves
- Do some online shopping – buy yourself a little treat and wait for it to arrive in the post
- Go for a drive – it will get you out of the house and might be the only time you’re guaranteed a seat completely to yourself!
- Put your little one in the bath – kids love splashing around and you can just sit and watch for a bit while they entertain themselves with the water
- Go to a baby / toddler group – there will be loads of new toys for them to explore and you’ll probably get a sit down and a cup of tea
- Put the TV on – letting the TV babysit your kid for half an hour is totally okay, especially if it means you finally get a chance to rest
- Curl / straighten your hair – do something nice for yourself – a bit of a pamper – you deserve it!
Now I’m not saying that any of these will fully recharge your batteries – you’re still going to be mumming right through them all – but letting a little bit of yourself resurface can really help to refresh you.
And now, before you do anything else, text that friend who offered to babysit once – get it booked in and plan something really exciting.
To the poor woman out there who just googled, “full time mummy need a break”, this post is for you. And I hope you got the rest you so desperately needed.
Love Lucy xx
What do you do when you need a break? Do you have any top tips for mums (and dads) who are feeling a bit overwhelmed? And be honest – how often have you stuck your head in a cupboard to sneak a cheeky biscuit?! Hehe. I love to hear your thoughts and I always read all comments so please let me know below.