I recently read a post on a fellow bloggers site about taking a mummy break. Michal, of allthingsmomsydney.com, rightly spoke about the importance of mummies taking time out for themselves, and made a lovely list of possible things to do.
But as I scanned down the list, I had the awful realisation that I haven’t done any of these activities in a long time (like, years!)
Why Haven’t I Had A Mummy Break?
It’s not a difficult question to answer. In fact I can answer it in 1 word: GUILT!
I feel guilty about spending money on myself. There might be an unexpected bill later on.
I feel guilty about using my time for myself. There are chores to be done.
I feel guilty about wanting some space for myself. Surely a mummy should love having her kids around all the time.
Why Haven’t I Seen This Before?
But as I typed all of this into the comments section, it dawned on me how crazy it all was. Why are my wants and needs less important than anyone else’s? Why have I made myself the lowest priority? Why am I still wearing the same battered black boots every day even though they leak?
I’ve realised that my mummy-ing has gotten a bit out of control!
All day, every day, I make sacrifices for my family. I love them. I want to give them the best that I can.
But it is a life-style choice that has gradually evolved into a habit.
I can love my children and put them first without making myself a slave to them. I am no less worthy than they are. No less important.
Everyone needs break, and mummies need a Mummy Break – the chance to be a person in their own right, a chance to reflect on how they feel rather than how everyone else feels.
Somewhere along the way, I have lost sight of this. I have lost my way. I have lost myself.
The Mummy Break Challenge!
So, I am setting myself a challenge. I am going to allow myself to have a Mummy Break. And to get the ball rolling, I am going to write down a list of possible ideas:
- Go shopping for some replacement boots (see comment above!)
- Get my nails done
- Go on a date with the hubby
- Play the piano for the sheer enjoyment of it
- Plan something for my 30th birthday
- Meet up with my old school friends for afternoon tea
- Get my hair coloured
- Buy myself something that I don’t need – a real ‘treat’ item
- Read a book
- Go to the cinema
- Have a lie-in
It was actually a lot easier to write that list than I expected! Ooh now where to begin?! They all sound pretty good to me!
I’d love to know what you do for your Mummy Break! Do you ever feel guilty about it?