Have you ever thought about how you edit your life? When someone asks you what you’ve been up to, what highlights (or lowlights) do you give them? When you reflect on your day, do you think about all the good things that happened, or focus in on the frustrations?
I’ve been struggling with my mood a bit recently so I’ve set myself a challenge – to edit IN the good bits!
Where is your focus?
Now I’m not saying that we need to pretend everything is hunky-dory when it isn’t. I think it’s good to talk about your problems. But, I have been trying to be more mindful about how I interpret and summarise my days.
When Hubby asks how my day has gone, it can be so easy to reel off the number of time-outs I’ve had to dish out, or moan about the car running out of petrol.
But what about the good bits?
I seem to automatically jump to the bits that are frustrating. Okay the car running out of petrol was rather stressful, but by highlighting that event, I give the impression that the whole day was dreadful, when actually, I had a lovely hour or so playing in the sunshine with my toddler before the petrol incident.
If I placed more emphasis on the happy, playful, fun bits, I know I’d feel much better about things.
I am the editor of my life
Imagine you’re the editor of the movie of your day. In your hand are the rolls of film; every moment from the last 24 hours.
Somehow, you need to cut all of this down to a 15 minute clip.
It’s up to you to choose what you keep in and what you discard – you decide what the significant bits are. You chop it all up and stick the bits you’re keeping together. What is the good-to-bad ratio? How much of the good stuff have you dropped to the floor?
That’s the process you go through every time you have a conversation with someone about your day. Each time, you make a decision about what information is relevant and interesting and important.
How to edit in the positives
So here on in, I choose to edit my life in a positive way!
What does that look like in practise? Well here are a few things that I’ll be considering:
- I will look for positive things to report
- I will actively avoid sharing my negative news (unless I need to, obvs!)
- I won’t let bad incidents take up any more of the day than they need to – I will deal with them and then move on
- I will be more aware
- I will stop listing bad things that have happened and take each as an isolated incident
- I will take time to savour the good times
- I will comment when something nice is happening because hearing the positive thoughts will reinforce them
- I will replay happy memories from the week
How good are you at being a positive editor? Do you have a tendency to look on the negative side or are you good at focussing on the good in your life? I’d love to hear some of the positive things you can edit from your day so far – tell me in the comments section below 🙂