It’s October and Halloween season will soon be in full swing. No doubt there’ll be:
- Witches costumes
- Spider webs
- Spooky stories
- Halloween parties
Halloween is big business these days!
But here’s my big confession: I hate Halloween!
Do you want to know why?
I Hate Halloween
I’ve got loads of friends who love Halloween, but I hate it!
I don’t understand it. Isn’t it just a celebration of evil? Darkness, witchcraft, violence – no thank you! When did these things become worthy of a party?
The Waking Nightmare
My daughter is intuitively sensitive; she picks up on other people’s feelings so easily and is heartbroken if she sees others in distress. I have to be very careful what I say when I tell her off because she feels things so strongly. She is deeply moved by storybooks and films.
When she feels joy, it is an all-consuming elation. When she feels fear, it is a debilitating terror.
October is literally a waking nightmare for her!
Should I Toughen Her Up?
When so many other children lap this stuff up, should I be encouraging Jenny to join in? Maybe taking part would show her that it’s not so frightening.
But actually, I’m not sure I want her to join in.
- I don’t want her to think it’s okay to go around frightening people. That’s bullying.
- I don’t want her to think it’s okay to issue a punishment if she isn’t given sweets. That’s threatening.
- I don’t want her to dress up as a nurse splattered with blood. That’s violent.
I don’t think I want her to learn these things.
But more it’s than that:
I never want her to think that it is okay for somebody to bully her, or threaten her, or be violent towards her.
You’re Perfect As You Are, Jenny
You don’t have to embrace any of this nastiness, Jenny. You are perfect, just as you are. I totally understand why you want nothing to do with it all, and I am proud of you for it.
I love my beautifully empathetic, caring child. I love her sensitive, thoughtful nature. She is delicate and loving and perceptive. She is exactly how I want her to be.
We will strive to bring light and happiness and love to the world.